In my last blog post I mentioned that we’d had a lot going on and I was feeling rather stressed and overwhelmed, which has left me precious little time to concentrate on this blog and even just manage some day to day bits and bobs that I usually wouldn’t bat an eyelid at. If you know me, you’ll know that I’m usually really organised, and I’m not normally flappy and take things in my stride. Well the past two weeks has definitely put that theory to the test, and I’ve felt anything but the latter!
Basically, the house we were buying fell through last week, as we decided with a heavy heart to pull out. It was lovely, and in a brilliant location close to friends and Freddie’s school, but the survey we had done brought up a few issues that would have been costly and a fair bit of work from the off, something we didn’t really want. You know I love a project, but lots of the problems were on-going ‘maintenance’ issues and it seemed too bigger gamble for us.
On Saturday we viewed a couple more houses, eager not to lose our buyers, and we must be mad, but put an offer in (that has since been accepted) for one I orginally refused to even view because of the garden, but house-wise it is perfect for us, and has scope to extend in the future and we can afford to sort the crazy garden now at the price we’ve bought it for (I can’t wait to tell you more in a future post!).
Whilst we are fortunate to be able to move at all, it hasn’t half been a stressful time, with my emotions all over the place, wondering if we’ve made the right decision to move full stop.
I’m not usually an anxious person, but these past two weeks I’ve felt tense, unable to concentrate on much else, have had migraines, felt my heart racing and like I could burst in to tears at certain points. I’m sure some of this may have been hormonal, but stress does have a lot to answer for.
And I’ve felt guilty for feeling stressed like this.
We lead such a nice life and other people have much bigger problems, that I’ve tried to ignore it but sometimes you just can’t.
I realised on Sunday night after a mini meltdown that I need to spend a couple of weeks looking after myself really well as I haven’t been at all, and putting myself first as I was starting not to function well at all, something that isn’t ideal when you have a young family to look after!
Doing the following has started to make me feel better already…
Just stopping to breathe and relax my shoulders and doing some yoga in our bedroom.
Eating well consistently again and not just grabbing a sugar fix, and cutting right back on the old wine drinking i.e. none during the week. It makes you feel like you’re unwinding but isn’t great for sleep at all, and even if you’re not drinking to excess, once you have a glass you tend not to get much else done or really clear your mind!
I know that exercising and going to the gym again will make me feel loads better too and release those endorphins- I did my first gym session in a little while earlier today and it was awesome 🙂
Phoning friends for a chat and just laughing- definitely a great way to feel better!
A cup of tea and a good book or magazine in bed early evening (NOT Instagram and Facebook!)
Spending a few hours working my way through emails and my to-do list today that i’d been unable to focus on has made me feel much better and on-top of things too #anal
None of the above is rocket science, but I think sometimes as mums and/or working people we forget about taking great care of ourselves and try and ignore our stress, when really it should be high up there on our priority list along with the school runs, laundry, work and the bazillion other things we try and cram in.
Here’s hoping the above works, and we start off this adventure to our new house in a positive, less-stressed way!