When did blogging become so bitchy?

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When I started this blog 2 years ago, I knew no one in the blogging community. After several months, I gradually came to get to know other people (predominantly other parenting bloggers), through their blogs, chatting online, and then at events and conferences in the flesh. 

Overall I have found it to be a supportive place, and yes, I have made some lovely friends and friendships that have now crossed over into real life. 

But the last 6 months or so, I don’t know, there seems to have been a real shift. Lots of background sniping. Lots of face to face sniping. Bitching on social media. Bitching at certain events. Mainly over people’s blogs. People’s opinions of other blogs. People bitching that so-and-so didn’t deserve X opportunity because their blog is ‘crap’. People bitching about other people they don’t believe to deserve a blogging award/nomination. 

All of which drags the whole community down. Even if you didn’t think you were involved in the first place, you feel it.  

I’ve seen some of the most outwardly positive people be the worst for it.

It leaves a lingering bad vibe.

And if you’re privy to it, it doesn’t half make for awkward listening/reading/viewing, especially if it’s about someone that you either like, or don’t especially have an opinion on. 

Because let’s face it, most people haven’t spent any significant amount of time with these bloggers of which they cast their judgement. So why do we judge? 

But I’ve felt more and more negativity these past few months, and I’m really quite drained by it. I know I’m definitely not immune to being mean from time to time, I’m only human. 

My case in point was a few weeks ago, when I saw something that another blogger had said on social media. It was something that I still believe to be eye-roll inducing, but instead of keeping it to myself (and rolling those eyes), I screen-shotted it and sent it to a friend. In that moment, I became a massive cow-bag, because I don’t even dislike the person, and there was no real need to share it.

I had been bitchy. And it was something I wouldn’t have dreamed of doing not that long ago.

And did it make me feel good? Not a bit. 

So why does it feel like something has changed in the blogging world?

Are people more competitive because there are more blogs than ever about these days? Do rankings bring out the worst in people? Why does it feel like EVERYONE has opinion on someone, on other blogs? Why can’t we all just rub along together, whatever our niche?

So many questions that I certainly don’t have the answers for.

But what I will say is this.

So you have a blog that showcases your gorgeous recipes, dreamy home, or your honed crafting skills?

Then good for you, you will be inspiring thousands of readers who are looking to enjoy and improve on their living space and hobbies.

If you don’t like it, DON’T READ IT.

So you have a blog that highlights the good times, shares photos of your lovely family, and focuses on the positives in your life?

Then good for you, you’ll be making thousands of readers smile with your uplifting take on things.

If you don’t like it, DON’T READ IT.

So you have a blog that is on the sweary side, rants a fair bit about how hard this parenting lark can be and raises a glass (or three) to bedtime?

Then good for you, you’ll have thousands of readers nodding along (and possibly full on laughing out loud), with a wry smile, and you’ll make them feel like they are not alone after a tough day.

If you don’t like it, DON’T READ IT.

So you have a blog that is very ‘Mum and baby’ focused, possibly has lots of reviews and giveaways for people with little ones, and tales of sleepless nights/weaning/potty training?

Then good for you, you’ll be a help to thousands of new parents and parents-to-be who find what you have to say ridiculously helpful and reassuring.

If you don’t like it, DON’T READ IT.

You get the idea.

Of course, I have personal opinions on what I like to read and don’t like to read, It’s only natural. 

But I’ve found more and more lately that bloggers themselves are writing about, or bitching about on social media what they feel should be the status quo in the blog world. What people SHOULD be blogging about. What the ‘tone’ SHOULD be. How bloggers SHOULD conduct themselves.

I read quite a spiteful blog post yesterday, one that was rather scathing about people who called themselves ‘Professional Bloggers’. I think was trying to be funny, and in one or two parts it was, and I did nod along to a couple of things the writer was saying. BUT the overall tone was pretty nasty, and really dismissive about people who now legitimately call blogging their job. For the record, I don’t call myself a pro blogger (maybe a part time one!) but I know decent people who do, some of whom have taken big risks jacking in their jobs to go solo, or taken huge pay cuts to make it work. Not all are ‘kept women’ as the writer implied. But anyway, I digress. The point is that surely bloggers should be supporting other bloggers in their dreams, and championing them (whether or not you think what they’re writing is shit). If they’re that crap anyway and you’re above it all, then why does it bother you so much?

I’m all for freedom of speech, but surely it comes to a point where people should just shut the hell up?

So much bile about other people is disguised as “well, I’m just being honest”, and I feel you often can’t move for sneering and bitchiness right now.

Kindness is definitely an under-rated virtue. 

Why can’t we all support each other, even it someone’s blog doesn’t float your boat?

Concentrate on what YOU want to write about, and how you want to live your blogging life.

There is room in the blogging community for everyone to write/work/play together nicely, without there becoming a ‘divide’ between those who do things one way, and those who do things another. Sometimes we agree with things people say, sometimes we don’t. That’s life, and is as it would be in any workplace up and down the country. 

As my lovely American blogging buddy Elfa would say:

Don’t be an Ass Clown. 

Best piece of advice ever.

Am I alone in feeling this way? What do others think?

 

As you were… tomorrow will resume in all it’s happy, interior-loving glory! 

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45 Comments

  1. Leigh - Headspace Perspective
    October 7, 2015 / 1:39 pm

    Yes yes yes. Agree. Too much emotional energy wasted on meanness. I read the pro blogger post you mentioned and wondered why the author felt a need to be so unkind. The world is diverse! The blogging advice posts are well-intentioned if you can take inspiration from them, but they should be read as ‘could’ rather than ‘should’. Great post xx

  2. Amy Ransom
    October 7, 2015 / 1:48 pm

    Yes to this. I’ve been lucky to make some really nice friends through blogging (you included) and there’s a lovely group of us who support each other and celebrate each other’s successes. In my opinion with over 7000 parenting blogs there’s more than enough room for us all to be different. And there’s enough readers to go around too, all of whom have different needs and tastes.

    Thanks for writing this. You’ve written what I was thinking but couldn’t find the energy to write. As you say, if you don’t like something, don’t read it. Simple.

  3. Gemma Capocci
    October 7, 2015 / 2:19 pm

    Well said Becky! I am reasonably new to the blogging biz and have thankfully not witnessed any bitchiness thus far (not to my face anyway!). But I am with you on this one, if something offends you and pees you off, then just don’t read it. It really is as simple as that x

  4. Lucy Smithson
    October 7, 2015 / 1:32 pm

    Good post Becky. Such a shame that this is how things are going and perhaps one of the reasons why I am scared about starting my own blog. In many ways it becomes an extension of the workplace and the pathetic politics that many people get embroiled in. I’ve been reading a fantastic book that touches on the negative impact being mean and negative can have on you and it’s true. It must be exhausting. We should all just learn to live and accept others the way they are, even if we don’t agree/like what they say/do. xxx

  5. Jess Paterson
    October 7, 2015 / 2:33 pm

    I feel the same Becky. I like to go by my grandma’s adage: If you can’t say anything nice, say nothing at all. Xx

  6. October 7, 2015 / 1:42 pm

    I’m in agreement with you.

    “If you don’t like it, DON’T READ IT.” Spot on. The web and social media are crowded spaces, yes, but there’s room for everyone and as far as I’m aware no one ever forced anyone to read anyone else’s blog. (And if they have, is that better or worse than waterboarding?)

    I think increasingly the lines are blurring between people airing an opinion (which is fine) and sitting in judgement (which is not) – and making disagreements personal. (Tackling the man not the ball, as the old sporting metaphor goes.) I’m happy for anyone to tell me they disagree with something I say or do, but not to tell me that I’m wrong/an idiot/a terrible parent and that I should be doing it differently (most likely the way they happen to be doing it, by sheer coincidence).

    I have to admit, I don’t see much of the bitchiness that goes on beneath the surface – mostly because I don’t have the time to do much more than flit in and out of Twitter – but I’m becoming increasingly aware of it. We don’t all have to be besties, but why do some people seem to be so intent on making enemies?

  7. October 7, 2015 / 1:49 pm

    I’ve realised lately that I am sometimes nervous about hitting publish, which I never have been before… I’m generally oblivious to the bitching (clearly unobservant/don’t follow the right (wrong?) people), but I have felt a shift in ‘tone’ recently. I don’t understand it, I can’t fathom why people feel the need to be so mean. Like you, I wouldn’t pretend that I never bitch myself; occasionally something just gets the better of you, but it doesn’t make you feel good. I read the post you mentioned, and while I smiled wryly at a couple of specific points, I couldn’t get past the fact that the post was just mean. It seemed so unnecessary. I’m a big believer in making use of that little cross at the top of your screen, if you don’t like something/someone’s style/someone’s choice of subject/the colour of the font… don’t read it.

  8. October 7, 2015 / 1:50 pm

    Oh my lovely this has all clearly got under your skin. So sorry to hear about all this, of which I’m genuinely oblivious (not quite sure how?) I am of course in complete agreement, and think we should simply not read if we don’t like! There is room for everyone, and if we want great opps then we need to write great content… perhaps these bloggers who are being cow bags need to ask themselves a few questions, rather than projecting onto others? Hugs my love xxx

  9. October 7, 2015 / 2:10 pm

    I’m lucky to have not come across this as of yet but I do sometimes worry what others think about my own blog. I agree with what some of the others have said that if we work hard and focus on our own content the rewards will come. Visiting from Netmums

    Angela xx

  10. October 7, 2015 / 2:11 pm

    Well done for writing this and for being totally honest about your own part to play in this – I think if we examine ourselves, we can all be guilty of thinking this way on occasion. It’s a shame people feel the need to document their dislike of certain blogs and their style. I can only put it down to jealousy – the nasty root of many things, sadly. Well said Becky. X

  11. October 7, 2015 / 2:14 pm

    “If you don’t like it, DON’T READ IT.”

    How are you supposed to know you don’t like a blog until you read it?

  12. Californian Mum in London
    October 7, 2015 / 3:15 pm

    Well said Becky. I didn’t read the post you mentioned, but I do get tired of bloggers making snide comments at each other and writing posts trying to belittle other bloggers just because they write about different subjects. If less people acted like ass clowns, the world would be a better place. xx

  13. Rachel @ The Ordinary Lovely
    October 7, 2015 / 3:15 pm

    I was pretty oblivious to all of this until few months ago. I can’t hold my hands up and say I’m completely innocent and that I’ve never rolled my eyes at someone else’s behaviour or passed on a blog post where I couldn’t quite believe the content, but mostly I try and stay out of it all. I find it exhausting. I think it would be naive to expect everyone to rub along nicely – we’re bloggers, we have opinions – but we can definitely be kinder in how we express our opinions and more accepting of those that have different tastes and ideas to us.

  14. Rachel @ The Ordinary Lovely
    October 7, 2015 / 3:24 pm

    Oh, and my old American colleagues use to say, ‘Suck it up’. That’s one of my faves.

  15. October 7, 2015 / 2:33 pm

    I think I manage to stay out of it quite successfully, but at blogging conferences I usually find myself unwittingly in the middle of a conversation or two. You’re right, it’s awkward, and I couldn’t give a shit enough to have an opinion, least of all a negative one. I champion the blogs I love. and don’t read the ones that don’t float my boat. As you say, there is room for everyone and no great reason to have an opinion on how other blogs operate.

  16. October 7, 2015 / 3:01 pm

    i think you can just step aside from that side of blogging. Don’t get caught up in it and it makes your blog better. I left teaching to blog full time, I’m not a kept woman and I have had more amazing opportunities in the past few months than I ever thought possible.

    • October 8, 2015 / 9:46 am

      And all well deserved xx

    • October 8, 2015 / 9:49 am

      I think you have said what most good people are thinking. I was only saying to a few of the people who commented above the other day I am not one for this world. I get hurt so easily and there has been far too much negativity in the blogging world.

      I will not lie of course I would love everyone to read my blog and of course I get a little green with some of the oppourtunities I see others have, I ave rolled eyes too but I try to be the person I would like to meet in return.

      When I started blogging 9 years ago it was not like this, I miss the old days, like in any situ, but I am learning to love myself and blog what I want to blog no matter the comments.

      Your blog is beaut just stick with that xxx

  17. October 7, 2015 / 3:11 pm

    Totally agree with this. Unfortunately i have been on the receiving end of the nastiness and it has had a huge impact on both my confidence and my earnings as a result. To quote the offspring ‘these real things are commonly known as life
    so if it sounds sarcastic don’t take it seriously
    if it sounds dangerous
    do not try this at home or at all
    and if it offends you just don’t listen to it’

  18. October 7, 2015 / 3:23 pm

    I’m with Rachel as above, but I don’t feel as though the bitchyness pervades everything. Yes it is there, it is like working in an entire female office at times, but I think my overwhelming take on everyone is that most people are out there to support each other. I totally agree with the, if you don’t like it, don’t read it though! Completely.

  19. October 7, 2015 / 3:42 pm

    Fantastic post! Best thing I’ve read in a long time!

  20. October 7, 2015 / 3:45 pm

    Oh Becks, I love you! You just talk such SENSE! This is totally my opinion on this whole issue too. Live and let live I say! I try very hard to stay out of all the rows and live in my own little bubble. I think being over here definitely helps with that. Certain things do annoy me from time to time, but I really try to keep them to myself. As someone very wise once said ‘Just listen. Your ears will never get you in trouble.’ 🙂
    Loved this post! Xx

  21. absolutely prabulous
    October 7, 2015 / 4:52 pm

    I almost yelped for joy when I saw this. I was saying to a fellow blogger just yesterday, who was in fact herself embroiled in an unpleasant blogging-gone-bad incident that she handled very well, that I’ve seen so much bitchiness and lack of professionalism and camaraderie this last month or so. It’s left a bad taste in my mouth and threatens to take the shine off blogging for me sometimes. So I’m super glad you wrote this (as I’ve been scripting something similar in my head these last few weeks!). #TheBloggingMumsClub

  22. October 7, 2015 / 4:09 pm

    Hey Becky, love your site and I agree with you entirely – if you don’t like then don’t read it! No one is making you read something, move on.
    As for professional bloggers, I’m one. And the more I read about what I should do, the more I think the person is in cloud cuckoo land. It’s a job like any other job, only you’re the boss and you have to get up and hustle for it.

    If people don’t like the way you do business, they don’t have to work with you. And if you make (or in some case don’t make) money, that’s none of their business. The bloggers that write bitchy stuff amaze me, simply because they have the time to put something negative out into the world, I don’t have time for that. Maybe I’m jealous 😉

    I’ve had other bloggers tell me that the way I talk about blogging and my sites is unprofessional and I just laugh at them, who are they to judge me? And the answer is they’re no one, but they want to be someone and they think being judgemental will get them that. They’ve yet to realise the very best bloggers are the most support and the most collaborative, why? Because everyone likes and loves helpful people xx

  23. Eleanor
    October 7, 2015 / 5:23 pm

    Interesting, thought provoking and spot on on the ‘don’t read it point’. Also raises another point – who do we all write for? If an average, non-blogging reader of some posts on their favourite blogs was to read a snarky post about pro-bloggers, or a question about ‘real/honest’ blogging (which I have written myself, to be truthful), would they wonder what it was all about? Print journalists rarely write about other magazines. News programmes don’t report on others, either, so it’s interesting that we do, isn’t it? We’re a media, after all. We love our readers and comments from people who find our blogs who aren’t bloggers themselves. Your thoughts on this have, along with some other conversations, helped to convinced me not to think about, or write about any aspects of blogging ever again. Once was enough. Each to their own, as you rightly point out. Let’s get back to talking about other stuff!

  24. Amy @ Mr and Mrs T Plus Three
    October 7, 2015 / 5:43 pm

    You have summed up in words EXCTLY how I feel. I had another blogger dedicate an entire blog post to me to tell me and anyone who reads her blog how awful she thinks I am. I have witnessed a lot of bitchiness lately, first hand and I can not bear it. I am not confrontational at all and try and stay out of it. I do wish that everyone would just be nice. I’m going to blogfest in November and half dreading it in case the blogger who wrote about me is there. I am too old for school yard games and bitchiness! 🙁 xx

  25. Katie / Pouting In Heels
    October 7, 2015 / 6:05 pm

    Becky, this is such a great post! And actually a pretty brave one too in light of some of the sniping / bitching etc that seems to be going on at the moment. Why it’s going on is beyond me although I think it’s probably to do with insecurity and the good ol’ green eyed monster. I have to say in the three and a half years I’ve been blogging, I’ve very rarely come across mich nastiness in the blogging world. But you’re right there’s definitely been a shift recently, perhaps because more opportunities are coming to bloggers? And people are beginning to see the potential but worried that somehow they may miss out? Whatever the reason, there’s no need to be unkind. Like you, there are many blogs which I love and read avidly and others that I don’t read because they’re not my cup of tea. But I still respect them and I still admire their work. I’m very lucky to have made some lovely mates through blogging, which is wonderful because it sure can be a lonely place at times. I dunno, why can’t we all just get along?! Anyway well done you fo writing such a cracking post X

  26. October 7, 2015 / 5:35 pm

    Becky I agree with so much of what you’ve written here. There does seem to have been a shift in the parenting blog world in the last year or so. Like you, I’ve found myself getting sucked into it, and at times I’ve made the decision to ignore any negative chat going on, in an attempt to clear my mind and focus on what’s important. A few things have happened between me and a very successful blogger that I could have written about and talked about, but haven’t. I don’t want to be dragged down that way and would rather remain positive. Kindness rocks x

  27. @adadcalledspen
    October 7, 2015 / 7:18 pm

    As you say, if you don’t like a blog then don’t read it! It really is that simple. Some like to be controversial and catty, in Life as in blogging, so we’ll never see the end of it. I guess one must just rise above and ignore hurtful comments. But I know that can be tough, especially when people put so much of themselves into their blog.
    Good post.

  28. (Mostly) Yummy Mummy
    October 7, 2015 / 7:36 pm

    I once had a whole blog post written about me because the blogger took a dislike to a pair of shoes I wore. I kid you not. Hats off to her though, coming up with 500 words to describe how much you hate somebody’s shoes must take a special kind of talent! Ha! Seriously though, I’m happy to say that I blog away in my own little bubble for the most part and try not to get involved in the spats. You are right though, there are more of them these days. Sigh.

  29. October 7, 2015 / 7:23 pm

    I’m just laughing at ‘ass clown’ here! That’s a cracker that I’m going to add to my vocabulary!
    I have been attacked recently by a blogger and it has left me feeling rather blue and majorly cautious about how and what I write. Very sad and unnecessary really given that I write a humour blog that is wholly intended to make people laugh. I don’t do sponsored posts/advertising or competitions or anything. I just want to make people smile. But an “ass clown” didn’t see it that way and decided to make out that I was a raging sexist nasty who had a hatred of men. Oh well!
    On the plus side, a truly lovely blogger who i admire stepped in to my defence and that’s something that meant so much to me. She is awesome. She knows who she is.
    Share the love I say. Each to their own. Life is for living. Go forth and multiply….and don’t sweat the small stuff.
    I’m out of one liners now so im getting back to my wine. Great post xxx

  30. katrina
    October 7, 2015 / 8:30 pm

    You’re defo not alone in feeling this sad shift becky, Nor are you alone in admitting getting dragged into it, even if you’re not the instigator. I’m totally on board with the whole ‘there is enough room for everyone & if you don’t like something just don’t read it/ buy into it’ & move on. I’m a huge believer in different strokes for different folks, just find your happy place.

    I fully back the notion we should build each other up, not knock each other down (it’s a topic I’ve spoken to you about before). What I can’t stand though, is people who preach this, but in fact act totally contrary to such ideals.

    I’m not big on social media, & I can honestly say I don’t get caught up in any dramas on there- I only find out about them through others telling me (TBF, I learnt early that social media was not the right forum for such dramas)

    However, I guess this is kinda subjective, because what is the definition of bitiching? I feel like we should be allowed to have a negative option about someone/ or their behaviour, & disagree with their conduct (either IRL or on the internets) without it being called ‘bitchy/ bitching’- it’s a little like, how often, ladies in particular, can resort to the whole ‘oh she’s just jealous’ comment too quickly (that our friend A wrote of), in terms of people quickly say ‘oh you’re being bitchy’ too quickly without actually saying ‘Fair enough, you ARE allowed a negative opinion about someone without being a ‘bitch’. & communicating with friends ( in a private manner, i might add) to see if you’re alone in a certain thinking isn’t necessarily bitching, but quite natural for helping us to understand if we’re being level headed or a bit nuts about something! I’ve not been privy to ‘bitchy’ convos (thank god) but I gather some people can get really malicious & nasty, this is of course totally wrong, & unnecessary.
    I like to think I’m very back & white : Basically, if I think someone is behaving like a dick, I’ll say it (to myself or a mate, but certainly NOT in a public shaming way. Because frankly, that would make ME a dick). BUT on the same contention, I’d also avoid interacting with them too & just let them be. In recent times, I’ve find myself withdrawing from the blogging community, because I just cannot be arsed with dramas. I’m a very open minded person, so I can read idiotic posts & just let it go without even discussing it with anyone. Like water off a ducks back. Like you said, everyone is entitled to their options, & if someone wants to air them via their blog, well, what evs!

    That sounded ranty. It wasn’t!
    KINDNESS is they key, & we should all try being a little kinder to each other (& ourselves)

    Sorry for the MEGA Essay. But a brilliant post B xx

    • October 8, 2015 / 11:58 am

      I do agree with K here – there is a difference between having a negative experience with someone, and that giving you a negative view of that person, and just being a bitch. But I think we all know where that line is, and it’s up to us whether we cross that line or not.

  31. October 7, 2015 / 8:07 pm

    no you’re not alone and I totally agree. I read a nasty ppst about one blogger accusing another one of stealing an idea last week and it made me really uncomfortable and changed my opinion of then totally. I was shocked someone could do that and felt so sorry for the accused. No need at all to be bitchy.

  32. Sam
    October 7, 2015 / 9:48 pm

    definitely jealousy – we can all feel it at times but we bite our tongues and maintain our integrity. It’s not quite the same but I experienced some backlash bitterness from another blogger for the first time ever on Monday over on Twitter and it shocked me and put a dampener on the good news that I received that day. So yes I believe that there are people out there who haven’t learned to self censor unfortunately. Great post Becky. Xx

  33. October 7, 2015 / 9:16 pm

    “If you don’t like it, DON’T READ IT.” – Totally true. There are quite a lot of snipey posts about at the moment and a lot of threads of social media started to point out what people see as negatives with other bloggers. Each to their own – most of the time I keep my head in the sand thankfully and just try to get along with everyone! x

  34. October 7, 2015 / 10:03 pm

    Fab post. I haven’t seen the post you refer to, and generally I haven’t noticed much ‘new’ bitchiness around (I think it has been around as long as propel have been writing stuff on internet so a long long time…) but definitely, if you don’t like it don’t read it. There are so many blogs and so many readers I am sure all of us fit in the blogging bubble 🙂

    You can’t please everyone nor should you try, I guess everyone will at some point roll eyes at something you do. Is it worth a separate blog post though…? Not too sure about that 🙂

  35. October 8, 2015 / 7:36 am

    ALL THE YES!!!! So shocked at all the nastiness! No need for it!!!!

  36. Complicated Gorgeousness
    October 8, 2015 / 8:44 am

    It does feel a little more bitchy doesn’t it. I am so much more nervous chatting to bloggers now in case they are laughing and judging me behind your back. And that just isn’t like me at all. Because I’ve seen it so many times done to others. I was chatting to a non-blogger friend about it and said it was like being back in Year 9 in secondary school. There is always one that no one actually likes but you feels you need to stay on the right side of for an easy life. You are so strip naked when you blog so I guess we are all a little more vulnerable. Well done you for raising it xx

  37. Kip Hakes
    October 8, 2015 / 9:36 am

    Well – you could have at least linked to my blog post..

    I do think you’ve taken what I said the wrong way, I wasn’t saying people should make a living from their blogs, not at all, I know blogs are a source of income for so many people. My point was that those who are (or at least think they are) professional shouldn’t float around like they write for Cosmo.

    All Bloggers are equal – it’s that simple.

  38. Megan - Truly Madly Kids
    October 9, 2015 / 9:49 am

    This is brilliant – thank you so much for a thought provoking piece.

    I often see bloggers almost ‘inviting’ the bitchiness, which I find absurd. Why write a post against someone else or indeed as I’ve seen, someone writing posts listing why their particular blog is so great and everyone else’s is well, not so great. It’s madness!

    If you don’t like, don’t read. If you do like, read and celebrate! It’s a simple a formula.

  39. October 10, 2015 / 4:44 am

    I am defo from the school of if you don’t like it don’t read it! Which I don’t. And I certainly don’t then moan about it. We all have different loves and likes which is cool and I am all for free speech but I am also for being kind and reasonable. It’s a strange strange place. Fab post lovely xxx

  40. October 11, 2015 / 3:59 pm

    I completely agree with this Becky and to some extent I am totally out of it. I am not really in a blogging group, I sometimes feel just sort of on my own, therefore I don’t really get involved with the whole community side of it all. I have made good real friends from blogging, but we don’t ever really talk about blogging all that much anymore. I definitely think if you don’t like it, don’t read it. And we should support other bloggers, I go through stages, but I always try to support others. x

  41. October 13, 2015 / 1:31 pm

    I don’t think you were being a cow-bag for sending that screen shot to your friend, I think we’re all human and are allowed out moments of sniggering or whatever, it was behind closed doors. I think its like you say, when it becomes a bigger thing – like if you’d written a post about that, then that would be uncalled for. I think there’s enough room for everyone and like you say if you don’t like it, jog on yeah! x

  42. mummyofboygirltwins
    October 25, 2015 / 8:29 am

    Great post. And as much as we say that we should all support each other, a lot don’t. There’s groups and cliques and lots of offline chats. I try so hard to stay neutral but it can be hard. People do bitch and are mean about other bloggers. I’m SO not interested in that side of blogging to be honest and don’t care what people say about me in circles. I love my blog and that’s all that matters. It is hugely competitive though with big personalities and so I guess this will go on and happen. The more of us that ignore it the better though xxxx

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